Saturday, February 1, 2025

Mr. Peasant On Life In The Slow Lane

 illustrated by Milo Winter 

How narrow is the gate, and strait is the way that leadeth to life: and few there are that find it!
MATTHEW 7:14 DOUAY-RHEIMS

Mrs. Peasant and I strive to live what I call the "quiet life." From the outside looking in, we live boring lives centered around prayer and work. On the inside looking out, we desperately want to live at peace in a world of chaos, sin, and destruction. What is boring for others is tranquility for us. As I am fond of saying, life is 90% boredom punctuated by periods of intense crisis.

When I met Mrs. Peasant before she was Mrs. Peasant, I told her that I would give her a good life. It would be the life she always wanted. She would be happy but with one caveat. No one would envy her. No one would wish to trade places with her. She is temperamentally suited to this lifestyle. Everyone else is unsuited to this lifestyle.

The Peasants are Sunday driving in the slow lane as the rest of the world whizzes by in the fast lane. Mrs. Peasant has always been like this, but Mr. Peasant gave her the reasons and philosophical underpinning to embrace this life without apology. It has always been the dictum of saints, sages, and philosophers from different ages and places that one should live a peaceful and quiet life minding one's own business. The fact that our Lord Jesus Christ spent the first thirty years of his life living this lifestyle of obscurity is all you need to know about why you should choose it for yourself. When our Lady asked Him to change the water into wine at the wedding feast at Cana, they gave up their lives of peace and tranquility. And they knew it. Nothing would be the same after that.

We enjoy our lives very much. We watch one movie per week and one old TV show at a time. Right now, that show is Perry Mason. Before that, it was Columbo and The Andy Griffith Show. Mrs. Peasant loves to curl up with her Christmas books that she peruses all year long. Mr. Peasant likes to walk or listen to the news on his Walkman in a dark room with his eyes closed. He reads books at the speed of one chapter per day. We do not go out to eat. We do not go to parties. We do not take lavish vacations to Las Vegas or go on cruises in the Caribbean. We are not drinkers but prefer strong coffee to beer, wine, and whiskey.

Socially, our lives revolve around our parish and attending Mass. We pray the Rosary each night for various intentions. We read the Bible and the writings of the saints and doctors of the Church. We like to watch classic episodes of the Mother Angelica show.

By this point, the Gentle Reader has checked out. This is all too boring. Mr. Peasant is making remarks on what amounts to an unremarkable lifestyle. The Gentle Reader would be correct. We cultivate boredom with our country living.

I have experienced enough crisis in my life to fully appreciate the boredom. I don't need to seek out excitement because I know it will find me even if I don't want it. Life has enough trouble of its own without adding to it. I wish you all a quiet and happy life. Thank you for reading.

Jennie Augusta Brownscombe, Love’s Young Dream, 1887

Wednesday, January 29, 2025

A Cozy Home: Filling Your Home with Peace


Albert Anker (1832-1910) Farmer reading in Bed 

Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: 
not as the world giveth, do I give unto you. 
Let not your heart be troubled, nor let it be afraid.
JOHN 14:27


It's not just whats in your home that makes it cozy, but what is not in our homes. There are things we need to keep OUT of our homes to keep our peace. You cannot have a cozy home without peace. Here are some thoughts on how to fill your home with peace so you can be present and enjoy your home life.

1. UNIFORMS 

Uniforms are a way to make a decision once. It makes things so much easier when you don't have to make 1,000 decisions everyday. Maybe you can get it down to 500 decisions. I use uniforms for lots of things. For example, our breakfast is always oatmeal. Our lunch is always a sandwich. If we are traveling or doing errands, I always pack a PBJ sandwich, pretzels and water bottles. I always make Mr. Peasant a yellow cake with chocolate icing for his birthday. For my birthday, I always eat pizza and drink root beer. I have a uniform of seasonal decorations, beauty and household products, a handful of dinner recipes, and even our prayers have a schedule. We have been wearing the same clean church outfits every weekend since Mr. Peasant's accident. We are literally the Smurfs, and I don't care.  

2. MINIMUMS 

Our culture is always screaming about the need for excellence. In our home, we are constantly confronted with limitations. I am a strong advocate for setting minimums. What are the main things you must get done in order to keep the peace, the cleanliness, the order, the joy, and the romance alive in your home? Sit down and really think. For me. I have to clean the toilets everyday. and I go through our mail as soon as it arrives. Before bed, I want to pray a rosary, make coffee, and not leave any dirty dishes in the sink. I like to watch a movie at home once a week for our date night. I absolutely must make it to Mass every weekend (no excuses) and Holy Days of Obligation. I have no use for creating plans for the optimal dream week and then failing miserably. When I plan out my minimums, I know what I need to focus on that will give me the highest rate of return. There is joy in setting yourself up to win. 

3. ROUTINES 

Most of my routines were created with the help of the FlyLady system. It has helped me keep a cleaner home. I don't have to think about cleaning, I just follow a schedule. I cannot say enough wonderful things about the system. I have a very simple morning and evening routine. I spend an hour cleaning the high traffic areas once a week. It's also important to schedule some fun. Every Friday night, watch a movie with your spouse at home. Quality time is just as important as the practical stuff. Be sure to put it on the calendar and guard it. 

4. SAYING NO 

I am begging you to start saying no. It is not ugly, unkind, lazy, or inconsiderate to say the word no. It took me 30 years to learn this. Now, I can't stop saying no. When someone is upset that you said no, it's usually because they don't want to do it either. This is a guilt spiral. It happens a lot in churches, work places, families, and groups of friends. It is easier to take back a no than a yes. 

Say no to expensive or elaborate expressions of love such as gifts and fancy dinners. It's the thought that counts. Say no to extra church events. Once you get roped in, it's hard to get out. It's not required of you to do anything other than go and worship the Lord at Mass. Say no to traditions that are too hard. I finally gave up attending midnight Mass for Christmas and Easter Vigil. I LOVE Easter Vigil Mass, but I refuse to drive late at night anymore. It's a removable stress. Even though I've always done it, I'm okay with giving it up and choosing peace for the holidays.

Say no to dry clean only clothes, hard to clean appliances, fancy hair styles, and landscaping designs. 

5. DO THINGS LESS OFTEN 

I get my hair cut once or twice a year. When I go to Great Clips ($17.00) I get 5 inches cut off. I make it count. Make meals for dinner that you can eat on for many days. That gives you a few days where you can just heat up dinner. Go to the grocery store once every two weeks. This forces us to use up more of what we already have, and I don't have to waste time and mental energy on the grocery store. Buy extra stamps, toilet paper, shampoo, and batteries. If you have extras you aren't forced to rush out to the store as often. Wash only full loads of clothes. Don't water your plants when it's forecast to rain. Stop wasting time. 

6. MAKE THINGS EASY 

I have two vegan biscuit recipes. One uses almond milk. You roll out the dough and cut the biscuits. The other vegan biscuit recipe uses water only, and you drop the dough. I have decided to declutter the almond milk recipe. I know that for me it is easier to make the drop biscuits and to not have to worry about having milk. It's also cheaper. I have done the same thing with pancakes. I picked one recipe that uses water and simple ingredients we always have on hand. Are there any substitutions you can make in your day to make it easier for you? Get rid of the complicated recipes with 15 special ingredients that you never have. Get rid of recipes that are super expensive or take forever to make. Use a boxed cake or cookie mix. Get an air fryer or an electric kettle. Use a stick vacuum instead of a broom. Sometimes, appliances can make life easier!

Lincoln as a boy reading at night, Eastman Johnson 1868

7. DECLUTTER 

For 7 years now, we try to do a daily declutter. Getting rid of just one thing each day has transformed our home and made it easier for me to keep it clean. Anything counts for the daily declutter. It could be as simple as tossing a rubber band that's broken. Easy wins for a daily declutter include broken things, almost used up things (I'm looking at you shampoo bottle in the shower), and trash. It's okay to cut your losses. Throw out that ice encrusted unidentifiable crap in your freezer, so you can easily get to the real things you eat. Declutter unfinished projects that you no longer want to do, clothes that you feel uncomfortable wearing, bad shoes, dried up pens, expired food, dying indoor plants, lotions you didn't like, papers, and mail.  Let it go.

I also encourage you to get rid of the things that make you feel bad and clutter up your mind. These are things that make you feel sad or bad such as bad mementos like letters from an ex-boyfriend, old CDs that remind you of sad times, gifts you didn't like and feel guilty about, and fantasy self items from when you were younger. Mr. Peasant and I finally had to admit that we weren't ever going to learn Spanish even though we had books, a dictionary and even a CD ROM program (yep, that old.) After the twenty years having this stuff and saying we wanted to learn Spanish because it would be good for job opportunities, we finally decluttered them. We admitted that learning Spanish wasn't a priority anymore. What types of fantasy self stuff can you let go of today? What crafts, books, clothes, or equipment can you declutter? It's okay to not be the same person you were in high school. It's okay to not have any interest in things that you used to be interested in. We change and grow and like new things. 

8. LIVING BELOW YOUR MEANS  

There can be no peace when you are worried about bills. There is only one surefire way to have financial peace. There is only one way that YOU can control your financial future, and that's living below your means. I know. I know. It sucks. It's not sexy. But let's be realistic. Hoping for a raise next year is not a financial plan. There are two mindsets that I think can help. The first is to think of Mary, Joseph, and Jesus. Think of them in that fowl smelling stable. Think of the humility of our Lord in the manger.  And yet, you must think of them as happy. Money doesn't buy happiness. There are so many rich people that are miserable. 

The second mindset is to try to be easy to please. Try to have small desires. Don't get caught up in the diva, princess, extravagant culture. All of this is vanity. This world has nothing to offer. I have been poor my whole life. I want and need very little to make me happy. Not being in debt makes me happy. Being able to pay my bills makes me happy. Our budget for fun and wants is very very slim--almost zero. And yet, we are very content. We like to watch Perry Mason on Pluto. We don't spend money on streaming or subscriptions of any kind. We rarely eat out. We never go on vacations because we aren't trying to escape from our peaceful life. We love our simple quiet life. We don't even get each other lavish gifts. I usually get a two dollar box of chocolates for Valentine's Day and a handmade anniversary card. Try to be simple in your wants. Want peace. Choose peace. Pay off debts. Save and own things outright. Try to be a helper to your husband and be simple. Have gratitude instead of wants. 

 9. STAY FAITHFUL

Most importantly, Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. You can never have peace without God. Get your house blessed. Keep the Sabbath holy. Stay in a state of grace. Read your Bible. Hang crucifixes and holy images as constant reminders that this world is not our home. Lastly, fill your home with prayer. As St Padre Pio said "Pray, hope, and don’t worry. Worry is useless. God is merciful and will hear your prayer.”  Pray before every meal, before bed, in thanksgiving and especially in times of trial. We pray the Auxilium Christianorum prayers and the rosary every night and find them incredibly powerful. 

I hope this helps you to think about ways you can create a cozy home that is filled with peace. A place you and your family want to be in. I always appreciate you reading. Thank you and God bless you.

Évariste Carpentier - Sleeping shepherdess 1882


If thou sleep, thou shalt not fear: thou shalt rest, and thy sleep shall be sweet.
Be not afraid of sudden fear, nor of the power of the wicked falling upon thee.
For the Lord will be at thy side, and will keep thy foot that thou be not taken.
PROVERBS 3:24

Sunday, January 19, 2025

A Cozy Home: Filling Your Home With Music


A lady playing the piano, Carl Holsøe, 1900


To sing through the night like a lark who is learning to pray
I go to the hills when my heart is lonely
I know I will hear what I've heard before
My heart will be blessed with the sound of music
And I'll sing once more

-Sound of Music, RODGERS & HAMMERSTEIN

There is one thing that instantly creates a happy home, and it's never talked about. Our cozy home is filled with music. This is not just any music but beautiful and joyful music. Just like a scent or a candle can create a cozy feeling, music is something that has gotten us through some sad days, months, and years. I can't count how many times I've woke up blue and music has changed my mood. Within a few minutes of listening to my kitchen boombox, I'm smiling. Even Mr. Peasant is uplifted by sweet melodies and calming instrumentals. 

Do you remember when the stores were filled with muzak or instrumental versions of songs? Walmart had listening headphones to sell those CDs with mood music and sounds of whales. Today, when I go to the stores, they play loud awful pop songs that really distract me. I can't focus on my shopping list, and the music is either really annoying or nihilistic. I wish they'd bring back elevator music or easy listening music. I can't help but think that when our common areas were filled with happier music that people were less crazy and were calmer than today. 

Music is a free and simple way to make the days brighter. Here is how I use music to manipulate our mood. 

MORNINGS:

I wake up and as I get our breakfast and/or coffee going, I play a soft instrumental Reader's Digest CD. This CD is in the kitchen boombox at all times. I just hit the on button and the play button and a piano version of Moon River starts the day. Having lovely music on a low volume in the background helps put us in a better mood as we start the day. In fall, I'll play a cozy coffee shop jazz playlist. At Christmas, Spotify has a great free Christmas Cocktail Jazz playlist.

CHORES:

When I'm doing the dishes, chopping vegetables, putting the groceries away or cleaning the house, I'll turn on the radio. I'll play our local oldies radio station or the 80s radio station. I need motivation and songs I can sing along to. A good beat helps me get my chores done happily. I have programmed the three best radio stations into my boombox, so I can quickly press a button to switch stations. 

NIGHT TIME:

There is also a great radio station we discovered online that plays beautiful love songs from the 40s through the 70s-- WKSN 1340AM. This one is great for folding laundry at night, doing dishes, making dinner, or cuddling in bed. It has a Sundays with Sinatra radio show at 9 p.m. At night, we play instrumental CDs or mix tapes as we read books or play Connect Four at the table. 

A Family Listening to the Radio, Royal Oak, MI 1939


HOUSE MUSIC DOS AND DON'TS:

1. Find a radio station

Radio stations are easy because they are an automatic mix. You don't want to be a DJ tending to the music. To create a mood, you need the music to play and not have to worry about it. If you are talking over dinner, the last thing you need to be thinking about is the next song or flipping over a record. 

The Radio Garden website is incredible. It lets you hunt for new radio stations from a map of the entire USA.  

As mentioned earlier, we love WKSN 1340AM all the way from Jamestown, New York. We found it on the Radio Garden Website and it's playing all the time in our home. It is nonstop sweet and lovely music.

2. Create themed playlists

Try to create a theme with your mixes. That way you can start the music and not think about it. You can make a playlist mix from YouTube music videos or Spotify for free. Just be sure to include songs that everyone will enjoy. Mr. Peasant and I have made 10 mix tapes. We spent weeks choosing and creating tapes of our top favorite songs. We have two tapes with all of our must have versions of Christmas songs and carols. We have Instrumental tapes that we made with our favorite TV theme songs, cowboy western songs, and new instrumentals we found while hunting on YouTube.  Some ideas for music mixes include love songs, a cleaning mix, a fall vibe mix, a summer pool mix, party mix, a mix for a rainy day, or a classical music mix for reading.  


3. Make a playlist of love songs with your spouse.

When you are creating a mix, you are learning about the other person's favorite songs. You are sharing the experience of happily listening together. Their favorites become your favorites. It's a lot easier to listen to their favorite song than to listen to the whole album of something you might not like. Our love song tapes are some of the most precious things that I own. I would have never known that "Groovy Kind of Love" brings on the water works with us until we spent the time listening and narrowing down the best 20 songs. It's a great way to find out what songs remind them of you and vice versa. 

4. Play instrumental music in the background

During dinner, a board game, or over morning coffee, instrumental music can create a cozy mood and still allow for conversations. Be sure to keep it at a lower volume, so you aren't talking over the music. 

Search for mixes using these terms-- acoustic, instrumental, ambient, playlists for studying, jazz, piano or classical guitar. Then, type your favorite style of music. Almost any music can be turned into instrumental music such as worship music, bluegrass, classic rock, oldies, and 50's. Even soundtracks of movies can be great. 

Here are some of my favorites mixes to get you started:

Nostalgic playlist for daydreaming  Mornings, Creative projects

Pure reminiscent of childhood Mornings, Creative projects

Jazz Noir: Exquisite Midnight Jazz | Dark Jazz Music For dinner or board games or rainy bed nights.



Here is the motherlode playlist of Readers Digest Albums Dinner, Date Nights at Home, Home Life

Spotify has a free playlist called "Easy Listening Instrumentals" that is fantastic. It runs over six hours. 
 
A Farm Family Listening to Their Radio, 1926 Dept of Agriculture


5. Don't pick sad or merely okay songs.

When you make a mix, only pick songs you could listen to forever. Go with songs that immediately make you smile and remind you of a happy time. Pick songs that always brighten your mood and fill you with joy. Only pick the very best as you'll be listening to them a lot.
 
6. Don't make it hard.

Have music players easily available. I have a simple boombox in the kitchen because that's where 75% of our life happens. I have all the radio stations programmed in and a CD loaded and a tape in the ready, so I can have music playing quickly at any time. For music in the bedroom, I use my Chromebook. I have all of the radio station websites and Spotify/YouTube playlists in an easy to find folder just a click away. 

7. Remember that music is a shared experience.

Try to include everyone in the house and consider what they like to listen to. Be sure to have a mix that is well liked, so it boosts the mood of everyone in the home. I know what some of you are thinking. This is way too sappy and silly for my husband or my family. Give it time. I promise you that it will slowly change your home. As long as the instrumental music is soft during dinner and conversation, they shouldn't notice. Let the music be like a candle sweetly permeating the room with calm. For the radio or mixes, I hope your home is full of bad singing and silly dancing and joy. I hope you discover what music your family likes. I hope this creates cozy rituals that fill your souls with joy. We can see how dark music has changed our culture. We can use music strategically to uplift and nourish our souls. Let us fill our homes with beautiful music. Beautiful music can bring peace, calm, sweetness and joy to our homes. And what is more cozy than that?

Happy listening, and thank you for reading!

Thomas Eakins - At the Piano 1871

At the sound of your voice
Heaven opens its portals to me
Can I help but rejoice
That a song such as ours came to be?
But I always knew
I would live life through
With a song in my heart for you

-With a Song in my Heart, RODGERS AND HART

Sunday, January 12, 2025

A Cozy Home: Utopia on The Small Scale


Childhood friends (1881), by Gaetano Chierici

"ET phone Home."
-ET: The Extra-Terrestrial

I remember watching ET for the first time last year and weeping. I couldn't believe that people downplay this film as a silly movie for children. It is an incredible movie, a profound movie about home. Home is put in it's proper place, the most important thing. It's the story of a family breaking apart from a divorce and a lost alien who is trying to get back home. The children immediately realize the seriousness of his request and longing for something irreplaceable. They can never return to their home. Their home is destroyed and will never exist again. The children fight to get the alien back to his home. I bawled my eyes out. The point of the movie is home. Home is the most magnificent place in the whole universe. Even if you've had a bad childhood, you can create your own home now and make it your own happy place.

Mr. Peasant and I spent ten long years saving to buy our home cash. When we finally moved into our home, Mr. Peasant said to me, "You have arrived." I pondered over this for a long time. I think we spend our whole lives trying to get to the next thing--the next school grade, the next chapter, the next job, the next achievement, the next goal. The problem about always trying to get to the next thing is that you don't realize that you have arrived someplace. I was reminded that we arrived to the goal we had set. And instead of quickly creating a new goal, what if you just sat and enjoyed the goal? What if you just appreciated the place you tried so hard to get. You have arrived. What do you do when you arrive? You live there. You enjoy it. You soak it up. You remain content with it. I call it "blowing out the couch of your life." Get really good and comfy in your life. Use it up like an old couch that sags in the middle. A goal is only worth it if you realize you made it. If you have a home, you have arrived. You have a place to create a world just for you.


Grandmother's story (1875), by Pietro Saltini

The world is constantly telling us that everything good is outside of the home. The best food is at the restaurant. The most fun is somewhere out there. Being home is boring. Tending home is torture. Being sentimental is a bad trait. Always upgrade to something new. It's the wildest thing as an adult to quickly realize that everything that is worthwhile and is the magic sauce of life is inside your home. The home is an ark, a haven from this evil world. It is a place of refuge and peace. How can we praise the Lord for all the good He has done for us if we don't realize that we have arrived? The family, the people, and the memories are the only good, true and beautiful things this life has to offer. The most beautiful place in our whole town is our Catholic Church. The second most beautiful place is our home. Home is where the heart is. After the virus scares of 2020, people rediscovered the love of home. The home is our haven from this weary world.

In this world where we don't make the rules and most things are out of our control, there is one place where we can create our world. We can do things the way WE like it. We are the kings of our castle. We can have our own small scale utopia inside our homes. It doesn't matter if it's a tiny studio apartment or a fixer upper. It doesn't matter if your home has a mountain view or is in suburbia. It doesn't matter if it is magazine pretty or a dump. What does matter is that you can make your place a haven. YOU can fill it with all the sounds and smells and things that bring you comfort. Home is one of my favorite topics. I hope you don't mind me elaborating more on this subject in future posts. But for now, think about your home and the people in it. Your home is yours. You have arrived. Praise God.
 
Blessed Virgin Mary hanging laundry with the child Jesus at her feet. Piotr Stachiewicz 

It was so wonderful to be there, safe at home, 
sheltered from the winds and the cold. 
Laura thought that this must be a little like heaven, 
where the weary are at rest.

LAURA INGALLS WILDER, The Long Winter



Monday, January 6, 2025

What Mrs. Peasant Learned In 2024

James Guthrie - To Pastures New 1883

Say to wisdom: Thou art my sister: 
and call prudence thy friend
                           PROVERBS 7:4


Does it seem like every year goes by faster and faster? I've tried some new ideas in the past year that worked really well. I've also learned from some mistakes. Here are some of the things 2024 taught me. These are in no particular order. 

1. Don't buy used electronics. 

I always want to be frugal and buy used everything, After years of failures including a microwave, two bread machines, a VHS player and most recently a used non-smart tv, I'm done. I've wasted enough gas, time, and energy. People actually donate broken stuff. Never again. 

2. Clean the thing that irritates you most.  

We have newer toilets with water holes that need to be constantly scrubbed, or they smell funky. (The contractor picked them out.) I started to clean the toilet bowls everyday even though I shouldn't have to do that! I tried 5 different cleaning products, and none of them worked. I can't control any of that. If I spend two minutes swishing the bowl everyday, I take the control back and prevent feeling ticked off the whole day. Two minutes is a small investment for 24 hours of not having to think about it. Whatever that thing is that drives you crazy about your home, just do it. Nip it in the bud. It's worth it. Choose PEACE.

3. Freeze your cookie dough. 

I had no idea you could do this. Now, I think it is the most amazing thing ever. When I'm itching to get ready for Christmas in November, I'm going to make all the different cookie dough, scoop them by the spoonful and freeze them. I've frozen oatmeal raisin, sugar, and fruitcake cookie dough. Just add a few extra minutes to the bake time. 

4. When buying used Christmas cards, check the envelopes. 

I found out the hard way this year when all the old envelopes were sealed. Mr. Peasant and I spent the entire night steaming each envelope open over a pot of boiling water. The envelopes still looked bad when we were done, and I had to tape them up. 

5. On Halloween, turn off the porch light. 

We were pretty bummed when we decided not pass to out candy this year due to kids running and falling on our lawn. Instead of the trick-or-treat ritual, I placed all of our outdoor Halloween decorations on the mantle and picked out a spooky movie for every Friday night in October. I even made home made vegan peanut butter cups. We didn't realize how expensive and stressful the neighborhood trick-or-treat production was until we stopped. We will never go back.



6. Tell the church ladies that you're an introvert. 

After years of trying to sweetly decline the social invites from the ladies at my church, I was asked to please come to the church dinner social. "We would love for you to come Monday. It's so much fun." I accidentally said the truth. "Oh, no thanks, I'm an introvert. Being in a room full of people I don't know and talking to them is my nightmare." They laughed politely. And then a man chimed in "I feel exactly the same way." See, my friends, we have to remind people that not everyone is an extrovert. Also, you are not unkind or unfriendly if you are an introvert. 

7. Candy roasters are a fantastic squash. 

The 2024 Garden VIP award goes to the North Georgia Candy Roasters. First off, they didn't need any help from me all summer. The squash bugs and vine borers didn't stand a chance. The candy roasters are huge, and they have stored "as is" on the floor of the spare room for 4 months and counting. They are smoothly textured and slightly sweet. 



8. Stop saving seeds. 

I planted some saved spaghetti squash seeds this year and wasted time and space in the raised bed. The squash was a Frankenstein squash that never turned yellow. Maybe it cross-pollinated? Maybe it was a hybrid and wasn't pure? Either way, seeds are one penny each. Saving seeds didn't save me anything. It wasted my effort. So, I am no longer saving seeds. I am buying them. I need as much help as I can get.

9. Work on your Christmas cards in November. 

Again, this is something you can do when you are chomping at the bit to get the season started. Spend the month writing cards and then send them out on Dec 1st.

10. Elderberry syrup for the win. 

The last two years I was so busy with Christmas, I ran out of elderberry syrup. Both years, we got sick. This year before Thanksgiving, I made a double batch, and we took a tablespoon serving everyday. We haven't been sick. Praise the Lord. 

11. Don't buy candy canes and other hard candies. 

I don't know what happened to candy canes, but we are throwing out the Brach's candy canes because they cut our tongues. The candy is razor sharp?! The candy canes are also smaller, and the plastic wrapping is harder to open, They are also more expensive ($2.79 for 10.)

12. Burn the Christmas candle. Use the nice things. 

I had one of those too nice to use candles for years saving it for that special day. Finally, this year, Mr. Peasant told me to light it up when my family came to visit. The smell was just so lovely. I burned it the whole day, and it floated around the whole house creating a such a cozy feeling. Drag out that 5 year old candle and light it. Use it. Today is special. 

13. Embrace imperfection. 

Good is good enough. Done is better than perfect. Period.

14. Make a cozy home. 

If you asked me or Mr. Peasant to name our favorite place, we would say home. Not Cancun or the mountains but our home. If you asked Mr. Peasant to name his favorite place to eat, he'd say home. Not Carrabas or Chipotle but our home. Make your home your favorite place to be. Customize it to what you love. We love filling the home with music. We make mix tapes with our favorite songs, or play the oldies radio station. We play Reader's Digest instrumental CDs softly, so we can talk during dinner. We like books in most rooms. We use battery operated candles to light the living room on movie night. We have weekly rituals and Friday night treats. We make home our favorite place to be.


15. Go to Walmart in the early morning. 

It's dead in the morning, and you can get checked out by the one human cashier with no line.

16. A supply for your mind. 

Books, DVDs, and music are not clutter. They are a supply for you mind. Just like we stock up the pantry to feed ourselves in the future, we shouldn't feel badly about stocking up for the feeding of our minds and spirits. 

17. Starting seeds inside is dumb. 

Start tomatoes, peppers and sweet potato vine slips indoors in red solo cups. That's it. Everything else is direct sowing in the ground. Hardening off is so iffy, and the plants look leggy and bad. 

18. Start sweet potatoes slips in February. 

I am going to start them earlier this year. I am not starting slips in May. I am planting the rooted slips in May. 

19. Refill disposable clicky pencils with lead. 

You can refill your old school Bic Clicky pencils (which are made way better than the newer ones) with refill leads. A box of 100 leads is 6 bucks and each pencil usually comes with 3 leads in the package. This saves money and is a preparedness item. 

20. Get a good kitchen knife. 

I was given one quality Damascus steel knife, and it is the only knife I reach for now. It has made my kitchen work so much easier. This knife cuts through hard squashes, watermelons, onions, cabbage and tomatoes like nothing. 

21. Prune the muscadines to prevent yellow jackets. 

If the muscadines fall on the ground, they will soon be covered in yellow jackets and wasps. Prune the branches back before harvesting, so you can see what's ripe and ready to pick. Secondly, never let fruit fall and stay on the ground to rot. 

22. Limes make great pomanders. 

I couldn't bring myself to buy an orange for $1.30. So, I used a few frozen limes from the freezer. They smelled wonderful. The limes were even stronger than the oranges. I'll always do limes now. 

23. Accept that you aren't a morning person. 

Who says that you can't bake cookies or clean the bathrooms after dinner? If you feel more energy after 9 pm, then vacuum after 9 pm. It doesn't matter what time you clean the house. The main thing is to get it done. Make peace with it.

24. No one will notice if you do less. 

I overthink things. I always think more is better. For example, I kept thinking I should have made three types of cookies instead of the two I had made for my Christmas gathering. I should have had one more salad dressing choice or another beverage to offer. I told myself to knock it off. Guess what happened. No one noticed. No one noticed I only had one salad dressing. No one noticed the salad had no croutons. No one noticed I didn't make a third type of cookie. No one missed the Iced tea I didn't make. The only one who knew of the "let down" was me. No one cared. You are overdoing it. Just keep it simple. 

25. Your air fryer is a pan. 

You have to wash it every time you use it just like a pan. I was skipping days washing it, and this makes it harder to clean. I had to make the mind shift.

26. Just buy frozen vegetables and canned beans. 

Groceries are so expensive now that I mostly buy frozen vegetables. I hate to waste any food. When you buy frozen, you don't have to worry about getting it eaten quickly. You can eat it whenever you want. Canned beans are so much easier to eat. I used to buy sales for the savings. Now, I find it is a better savings when things are easy to use, and I have longer to use them up.

27. No more fresh potatoes. 

Sadly, I have stopped buying fresh potatoes on sale. I have found that most of the potatoes in the bag are spoiled even one day after I buy them. A sale on potatoes equals rotten food. I was throwing more potatoes away than I was eating. I now spend a little more and buy frozen cut potatoes or instant mashed potatoes. At least this way, I get  to eat 100% of the purchase. 

28. Freeze your bread. 

I've started buying bread even with shorter best buy dates and keeping them in the freezer. It is nice to always have a back-up loaf for toast or sandwiches. 

29. Embrace your food uniform.

I found out that Mr. Peasant loves the vegan lasagna I make which is wonderful because we can eat on it for 3 days. I asked him if he would mind eating it two times this month. Surprisingly, he was overjoyed saying he'd love that. What a relief! I was putting way too much pressure on our food rotations. Lately, I've embraced a veggie plate dinner. It includes a bean, two veggies and a grain or potato. The vegetables can be whatever I have such as a salad, collared greens, green beans, coleslaw, candy roaster squash, or succotash. I make brown rice or mashed potatoes. We love it. I forgot that we are easy to please. Maybe if you ask your family, you will discover some meals they'd be happy to eat every week. 

Our current uniform is as follows:

Breakfast is always a bowl of oatmeal. Lunch is either a sandwich or a quesadilla with kidney beans. Dinner on most days is vegan lasagna or a simple veggie plate. Of course, there is some variety in the month. We may have burritos, "chicken" sandwiches, Asian rice, or cabbage with noodles. Having a food uniform helps me with decision fatigue. What we don't have is 15 different dinner options. We now have 5, and we are very happy. 

Our Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner food uniform is: Gardein Turkey cutlets, green beans, mash potatoes, cranberry sauce and stuffing. This is simple and covers all the bases. I don't ever have to think about it.

30. God will send the people to you.

You don't have to do something amazing. You don't have to travel to a different country or even leave your house. God can use little old you exactly where you are. I've found that God always sends us people to pray for everyday. We don't get out much now with Mr. Peasant's TBI. But I'll run into someone at church or at the grocery store, and they will ask for prayer. We now have a reputation for actually praying for those requests. God is good. If we don't have a personal request for prayer, we pray for someone on our parish's sick list. Pray for those God sends your way. We offer up one rosary a night for someone. Over the course of a year, that's 365 rosaries times two. That's a lot of prayer. 

31. Travel is overrated.

I like being able to talk to someone over the phone instead of a busy restaurant. I like feeling unrushed and uninterrupted. With free long distance, it is easier, cheaper, less stressful, safer, and more practical to just enjoy catching up with someone you love on the phone. I do miss hugging, but you can connect and really spend more quality time on the phone than in person. At least for me, they are seeing me at my worst--my stressed out, polite faced, drained worst. Grab a cup of tea in your pajamas and call me anytime. Let's catch up and laugh and really connect without all the stress.

32. Spend more time with your husband.

One of my oldest and dearest friends lost her husband this year, and I have to say to everyone out there to spend more time with your husband while you can. Husbands can be annoying, but you are their person. Women have girlfriends and work friends and church friends. Husbands have you. They are your dog. You are their person. They have you. What a beautiful irreplaceable thing. When you are happy, they are happy. Who else cares about your tires? Who else sees you so unpolished day in and day out and still loves you? Who worries when you come home late? Walk your dog more. Give him some treats and pet him. Husbands don't last forever.
 



33. Find a TV show.

It's very popular to bash on television these days. They will say that you are wasting your life on the couch when you could be living your best life watching from an Alaskan cruise ship as whales leap from the ocean.  They say that they are into experiences. Well, I'm into experiences, too. Just the free kind. And I can't think of a better experience than Saturday nights with Mr. Peasant. We watch Perry Mason every Saturday night. We cozy up in the living room with the glow of battery operated candles and eat popcorn.  And for a few hours, we are in a different world. We are engrossed in a shared experience. Without spending a dime or starting the car, we are whisked away into a new world of characters. Television is just a story. It's like a book on the screen.  I've never been a big TV watcher but I have changed my mind on it. TV is a wonderful way for regular poor people to share an experience together. It's a great ritual that deserves more credit. I also recommend Columbo to anyone needing a TV series.

34. Buy clearance fruitcake ingredients and freeze them for 11 months. 

Trust me, no one will fight you over it. Those ingredients will probably still be there on the clearance rack in February. I wrapped the candied fruit tub in plastic wrap and then double bagged it in freezer bags. I double bagged and froze the pecans Mr. Peasant cracked for me last year. Again, the nuts were marked down. Also, make these fruitcake cookies. They are so much better than fruitcake.

35. Call your parents and ask about photos.

Hands down, the most wonderful moment this year was talking with my mother about her childhood Christmas photos. I asked her about Christmas when she was growing up. She sent me photos from her old Christmas album via Facebook messenger. First off, Christmas pictures are so magical. See how your grandmother decorated her tree, how she carefully wrapped the presents, and how she captured your mom with the camera. It was so beautiful. I feel like I found out more about my grandparents looking at those old photos than I ever knew before. Christmas is when you see everyone with all smiles and joy. It was wonderful hearing my mom talk about the houses she lived in over the years with her toys and her beloved brothers. Do it. Call your parents and enjoy them while they are still here. 

36. Call even when you don't know what to say.

When you love someone and it's hard to call because you don't know what to say, call anyway. When they are suffering a heartbreaking tragedy and you don't know what to say, call anyway. When you are overwhelmed with gratitude and you can't put it into words, call anyway. When you haven't reached out in a while and you aren't sure how to mend it, call anyway. The best thing you can say is, "I don't know what to say" and then try your best to say how you feel. It's okay to sound stupid. No one knows what to say. It's okay. When you call, they know you love them. 

37. Do things poorly.

We have the worst Christmas lights in our whole neighbor. The lights are one strand over the door. I call it the "Snoopy's dog house look." It's okay to not be great at something. Someone has to be in last place. You don't have to be the best. My goal was just to spread some Christmas joy. I have to remind myself to not be so serious. Good is good enough. 




38. Wear big brimmed hats instead of sunscreen.

Sunscreen makes me breakout. It's sticky, and it makes my eyes sting when I wipe my eyes in the sweaty summer heat. I'd like to find a sunscreen that won't break me out, but I also don't want to spend a lot of money blowing through money testing 15,000 sunscreens. I was trapped in this cycle. My answer is a big brimmed hat (4 and 1/2 inches) and long sleeve shirts. I think it'll be cheaper in the long run.

39. Wool socks for the win.

Wool socks are the newest addition this winter. Dickies wool socks are not very expensive on Amazon. These socks are a wonderful way to feel warm and cozy while saving money on the heating bill.

40. Don't wear shoes too long. Once you find a comfortable shoe, buy backups.

Using the last of something is a virtue in all areas except shoes. Your leg pain, knee pain, and foot pain maybe from your blown out shoes. When you buy a pair of shoes, mark the date on your calendar and see how long they last. My Sketchers usually last 8 months. I used to be able to wear blown out shoes forever, and I took pride in that, Now, my old feet aren't playing that game. Shoes get used up like socks and underwear. 

41. Take pictures of your Christmas decor to use as a template for next year. 

I'm not reinventing the wheel every year. I like it just the way it is.


42. Write down the aisle number for your shopping list.

When I go to a store that's huge and I don't go there very often, I will go on their website and look up the items on my list to see if they are even available. Then, I'll jot down the aisle number, and sometimes even the price and sku numbers. I did this with a longer list at Walmart, and it was awesome. Vegan marshmallows at Walmart are not with the regular marshmallows. Vegan marshmallows are mysteriously in the gluten free section. Vegan chocolate chips are also in the gluten free section. I was glad I had that list. I was able to get in and out quickly. 

43. Buy men's socks. 

They are made better. I like Dickies black crew socks. 

44. Stop having nice things that you are afraid to use. 

This would be the high end tea you got as a gift, or the nice journals you are afraid to write in. This is the Christmas Candle I was telling you about earlier. If you are someone like me that can't use the super nice thing then start buying used or not nice stuff. My most used notebook for writing is not the pretty magnetic grocery lists or beautiful gifted journals. It is the pocket sized mead spiral bound notebook. It's a mental block. Now that I know this about myself, I exclusively use these cheap notebooks and finally fill them up. There are no more pretty notebooks with only 6 pages used. I am not an expensive perfume. I am a cherry almond Jergens lotion. I am not an age defying body wash. I am a bar of Dove soap. Know thyself. 

45. You are going to be hot and tired when you lose electricity.

We lost power a few times this year. It was nothing major. What I quickly learned is that when it is boiling in your house you get tired immediately. I slept the whole time the power was out. I was wiped out. I didn't want to cook anything over the stove and play camping. I wish I had more granola bars and cans of baked beans. I wanted super easy grab and eat stuff. I also wish I had a battery powered camping fan. 

46. Get a Uniball pen.

People are stealing mail in our county and washing checks. We read that the Uniball is the pen to use to prevent check washing. We also drop off all our bills inside the post office directly to be extra cautious.

47. Roll on deodorant.  

I've wasted many hours scrubbing white build up from my shirts with tooth brushes and baking soda. Never again. Now, I only buy roll on deodorant which has eliminated the problem. I love that.

48. Use ant killer in your pantry. 

We had a trail of ants in the kitchen closet over the summer. I could not find where they were coming from. I took an empty soda bottle cap and filled it with Andro ant killer and placed it on the floor of the closet. Within 30 minutes, the ants were carrying the poison back to the queen. That night they were gone. 

Hopefully you found an idea you could use to make your life a little better. What have you learned this year? Big or small, I'd love to hear it. Thank you for stopping by and reading. Blessings to you in the New Year! 


Rather, as I gaze with faith, hope, and love
 upon your incarnate littleness, 
may I love my own littleness, 
for God is with us.
       FATHER PETER JOHN CAMERON, O.P.
Madonna, from a painting by Carl Fröschl 1904



Wednesday, January 1, 2025

Mr. Peasant On Walking Your Backyard


A forest walk in autumn, Carl Carlsen 1892


Small steps taken by many people in their backyards add up.
NANCY KNOWLTON

I tell people that I have the world's most expensive treadmill. This is because it is attached to real estate. I have a small path in my backyard that I made with walking many steps and miles as I try and recover from a traumatic brain injury. I find walking on a regular treadmill too dangerous because of my balance issues and too boring to stick with it. I find walking the neighborhood too hazardous at this stage of my recovery. So, I compromise by walking in my backyard. It is an option that I recommend that people consider.

My idea for a backyard walking path came from a famous doctor and runner, George Sheehan. I don't recommend running as a fitness activity and suggest walking as the better option. Sheehan made a running track in his backyard to save his family the embarrassment of people seeing him run in the neighborhood. This was before the running boom made this behavior acceptable.

I will always remember the dirt path that circled our backyard on Rumson Road when I was a young boy, but it was only years later that I would understand its significance. The path had been pounded into the grass by my father as he ran laps in the early 1960s to comply with family concerns that running out on the streets would bring embarrassment.--MICHAEL SHEEHAN (https://tworivertimes.com/a-son-remembers-his-father-running-a-school-honors-his-legacy/)

Sheehan was onto something with that backyard track. If he could make a running track in the backyard, I could make a walking path. There are many good reasons for making a walking path in your backyard. Here is a list of those reasons.

1. It is convenient.

Except for the weather, the backyard walking path has all of the conveniences of an indoor treadmill. You are close to a bathroom. You can keep a water bottle nearby and not carry it. Your wife can find you when she needs you. And if the weather turns hazardous, you don't have far to walk to get inside. And you can sit down when needed.

2. You don't have to worry about idiot drivers running you over.

The novelist Stephen King was out for a walk when an idiot struck him with his vehicle. You figure a millionaire author would have a private walking path at home to avoid such calamities.

3. You don't have to worry about attacks from the dogs in the neighborhood.

Dogs and other critters are a constant threat when you are walking the neighborhood or a park. Your backyard is a controlled environment where you can mitigate these threats from animals.

Beware of the neighbor's dog that crawls under the fence wanting to get petted. You may get licked to death.

4. You don't have to worry about the criminal element.

Women complain about this all of the time. They don't feel safe walking alone in their neighborhoods and parks. The backyard walking path solves this problem.

5. A dirt path in your backyard is a better surface than the road or the sidewalk.

Dirt and grass are soft surfaces and makes walking easier on the hips and knees. Concrete and asphalt are not as forgiving.

Sometimes, you have to mow the track to keep it walkable.

6. You are closer to help and home if you have a medical emergency.

I carry a loud whistle with me when I walk in case I fall or have some sort of health crisis. My wife can hear this whistle and come help me or call 911.

7. You can't get lost.

The Gentle Reader may laugh about this, but many walkers and hikers get lost on the roads and trails. I recently read of one fellow that went for a hike that lasted 30 days. He had only planned to be out for a couple of hours. I might get lost in my backyard one day, but I know my wife can find me.

8. It requires hauling less gear.

I carry a water bottle to the backyard, but I don't have to strap on a backpack or carry food. You don't have to pack the Subaru and drive to the trailhead.

9. You have more freedom to think.

Some people may opt to listen to podcasts or music when they walk. Walking the backyard makes headphones a safer option. I prefer to walk without distractions and carry a pocket notebook to jot down ideas for my writing.

10. You don't have to pay a gym fee.

Walking your backyard is essentially free. You also don't feel guilty if you slack off for awhile because the yard is always there. And no one is going to look at you in your dumpy clothes or judge you. You have privacy.

11. You can look at birds and stars.

I have become a very amateur birdwatcher from walking in my backyard. We get a lot of avian visitors. And we can see the stars at night because we live in the country where there is less light pollution.

12. You feel more secure on a night walk.

I walk in the dark in the fall and winter months. I put on a headlamp and turn on the porch light by the backdoor. I know my humble walking path by heart, so I don't worry about tripping or twisting an ankle.

Conclusion

Safety and convenience are the main reasons to make a walking path in your backyard. I understand that not everyone has an ample space in their backyards to make a walking path. I simply recommend the backyard as a consideration along with treadmills, streets, sidewalks, parks, and nature trails. If there is a downside, it would be boredom. I consider boredom to be a luxury because I like to think. The backyard is a middle ground between the treadmill and the trail. It is boring enough to allow you to think but novel enough to keep the walk enjoyable. I highly recommend walking for health and fitness, so get out there and get some steps. Thank you for reading.


Caspar David Friedrich, Walk at Dusk (Man Contemplating a Megalith) 1830